One Word Resolutions And Other Thoughts On The New Year!
Rejoice y’all! We made it through another holiday season. It’s been a long one and I still have to look at my phone to figure out what day it is. Who else is looking forward to Monday and a normal schedule, diet, and bedtime?!
If you didn’t get a chance to watch my little video about New Year’s Resolutions, you can check it out here. I’ll recap it here too:
Always ask ‘why’ when making a resolution. Do you want to lose weight to feel better? Fit in a new suit? Or make your ex jealous? Deep dive and really hone in on why you want to do the work.
Come up with one word for a resolution. It can be like a mantra! It also can be added to your list of values, something we discuss a lot in coaching. My word this year is ‘Grace’. It’s a word I hear often in the wellness world and it really resonates, especially with my new career path.
When I saw my dear friend, The Rev. John Zahl on New Year’s Day, he was wearing a ball cap with ‘GRACE’ boldly embroidered on the front. I asked him what grace means to him, he said, ‘Grace is loving someone when they haven’t merited the love they’re being shown. It’s love (ie, instead of punishment) when you’ve screwed up. God doesn’t love people because their lovable, he loves them in spite of the fact that they’re not completely lovable, and that is what turns them into loving people.’
If a friend or family member has fallen off the wagon, stood you up, or done something that doesn't vibe with your morals, we still need to show those people love. It may be tough love in certain situations, but it’s love all the same. And that can be hard (it is for me when judgment comes into play), but it takes work to not let your ego get the better of you.
Finally, I talked about taking some quiet time for yourself in these early days of the new decade. A friend once encouraged me to ‘live like a farmer’, when the sun goes down, stop working if you can. Light a candle and just be quiet (again, if possible!) and take time for yourself or spend time with loved ones. I’ve had clients confess to not knowing what to do with alone time- books may not be the ticket and hobbies can be too much to do after a long day at work. I am ALL about Netflix and Self Chill! Cozy up with a good movie and just relish that couch time. You deserve it.
That said, Kelly from Mission Yoga reminded our class on New Year's Eve to not worry about resolutions for a while. If you have been too busy with travel, family, cooking, cleaning, partying, set a date when you are back in your flow to sink into what you want to focus on in 2020. I like to do it with a group of friends and then we can all hold each other accountable for our resolutions. It’s a great way to be in touch once a month and reconnect.
As for my coaching, I am halfway through my training! I wrapped up my six months of in-person coach training in New York and am now kicking off the online segment of certification that will wrap up in June. I still offer a discovery session (read ‘complimentary’!) for people who want to see if coaching is right for them so spread the gospel!
Thanks for reading, take time to breathe deeply and let’s make magic in 2020!
